by Evalena Rose, M.A.
we are coming to honor and appreciate the Crone, the font
of wisdom a woman becomes after a life well lived and lessons
well learned. I believe, though, we are missing an important
stage of life in our accepted paradigm: the stage of Matriarch.
That gives us four stages: Maiden, Matron, Matriarch, and
matriarch is the woman who has raised her children and completed
her obligations as an active parent, or, she may be one who
has devoted her 30s and 40s to establishing her career and
now reaches mid-life ready to step into her power. One therapist
calls this the "Dangerous Woman" because she is likely to
set aside all that stands in the way of her post-menopausal
zest for life, and put herself first. She may leave off caretaking
others as she carves out a place to create what she wants.
in their 50s and 60s who assert their right to be important,
who want their needs to matter and their work to be meaningful
may leave the nest they've built with such devotion, or shift
from that successful, yet stifling, career, to find themselves.
Many take off on travels they always wanted to undertake,
others begin entrepreneurial adventures that express their
inner nature, still others finally validate their right to
become that artist they always wanted to be. Women may change
their appearance, shuck societal constraints, and step boldly
forward to work on causes they feel compelled to embrace.
believe the matriarchs of this world are a force to be reckoned
with, a power to be unharnessed and respected. They show us
what a sovereign self can achieve when one is operating from
internal guidance and the beat of oneàs own drummer.
When a woman validates her right to gain her sovereignty,
she unleashes amazing potential to create what has never existed
before -- her unique gift and expression, gleaned from all
her life experience to date.
ancient Egypt, during the matrilineal period when people lived
more in concert with natural rhythms, this period was considered
the height of one's life. Childhood and adolescence was seen
to extend to age 28 during which time one focused on being
a student. Young adulthood ran to age 56 and was a time for
apprenticing and interning with masters. Only during the 3rd
28 year cycle, from 56 to 84, did one establish oneself in
one's true life expression and work. The 28 years from 84
to 112 and beyond were the Crone time, time to be an elder
and give back, teaching the young.
instead try to make young people determine their life's work
while still in the hormonal changes of becoming an adult,
and manifest their whole career or family by mid-life. Our
society then acts as if all that life experience is useless
simply because the person is "aging" just as they are entering
what could be their most productive and effective years. Go
we need to add a rite of passage for this shift during the
hormonal changes of "middlescence" that menopause represents.
The hot flashes are often now fondly called power surges as
we recognize they are nature's way of bringing our creative
energy up into the higher chakras and the brain. I believe
this is Goddessàs design to prepare women for this
creative surge of bursting forth as an individual with a world
to change, each in our own small, or large, way. We deserve
to be recognized for the power we've worked so hard to build.
Once this active phase of our life is complete, we'll be satisfied
and gratified to enter the true crone years, the late 80s,
90s and beyond. Hopefully our communities will develop meaningful
rites of passage for this transition as well.
would love to see Matriarch added to the pantheon of possibilities
for women. When I began hot flashes, my apprentices at the
time called me a "Baby Crone" and wanted to honor my passage
into cronehood. But I felt too young, too unformed as a proper
wisewoman, and it felt too soon. Since meeting Louise Hay
in her 60s and witnessing Elizabeth Kubler Ross actively teaching
into her 80s, I have long felt that I, too, wil reach my peak
and produce my best work during those years. Looks like thatàs
where Iàm headed -- and I want to feel that that peaking
is valid and accepted as normal. Then I will enjoy the couple
of decades that follow, as the Crone who truly has much to
give back to the generations to come. Blessed Be.